Wedding planning is fun, wonderful, and exciting, but also stressful all at the same time. I'm learning that truth firsthand. There's tough decisions to make, realistic expectations to set, and peoples' feelings you need to consider at all times. It sometimes feels like one never ending juggling act - once you cross one thing off the list, four unexpected things come up! But I firmly believe all of wedding planning will be worth it as long as we as brides 1) don't sweat the small stuff 2) hold on to what matters most. So each Wednesday, I will share a wedding tip that can hopefully benefit other brides out with their planning! Today I'm sharing tips on how to keep your sanity while wedding planning and rise above the wedding planning stress.
1. STEP AWAY FROM PINTEREST
There are so many beautiful wedding resources and inspirations out there on the interwebs. This is helpful when you're first envisioning your wedding or need a quick DIY trick, but it's important to recognize that these resources can easily become destructive and a waste of time if you look at them too frequently or for too long. The more options you see, the more unsatisfied you may become when you compare it to your own wedding and only add to the wedding planning stress. At the end of the day, your wedding will not have it all and it will be Pinterest-perfect. And that's okay, because your wedding will be unique, beautiful, and perfect in its own way that honors you and your groom, not Pinterest. So use those great resources out there as simply inspiration and not a burden or pressure to replicate it.
2. VALUE PEOPLES' FEELINGS OVER A PERFECT PICTURE
This was a comment E made to me recently that I really appreciated. It's true that a photo is important, but does a perfect photo really matter if the people in it are hurt, neglected, or unhappy? No one will remember that the tablecloths didn't match the cocktail napkins or that the blooms were not of the season, but they will remember how you made them feel. Your guests (especially the groom and bridal party) will appreciate a present and pleasant bride over a bridezilla. Enjoy the process and don't let the minor details weigh you down. Your fiance will be so impressed what a stress-free bride-to-be you are. :)
3. REMEMBER WHY YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED
Um, because you and your fiancé are so in love and are committing to spend the rest of your lives together! Duh! :) But really, don't ever lose sight of that! Hold onto that feeling — look at your engagement photos, go on a date with no wedding talk allowed, or reminisce on older memories. Remember that more than you are a bride-to-be and he is a groom-to-be, you two are spouses-to-be. :) Pray for a healthy marriage more than you worry about a pretty wedding day.
4. TALK ABOUT IT
For me when I hold onto too many details in my head, it stresses me out and everything seems like a bigger problem than it really is. It helps to breathe and process externally with a friend. As you talk it out, each thing will break down and seem much more digestible.
5. STOP TALKING ABOUT IT
Now after you've talked it out with a friend or two, stop talking about it and stop thinking about it. Do an activity that is nothing wedding-related like going on a walk or reading a fictional book. Stepping away from the situation will help clear your head so that when you return, you will have fresh perspective and capacity to tackle whatever is in front of you.
Hope these tips on how to de-stress while wedding planning for all my bride-to-bes helped! Next week we'll talk about choosing a vendor to work with. What other tips do you have to de-stress while wedding planning?